Could divorce be coming soon to a neighborhood near you? We might assume that divorce cannot touch families who attend daily Mass together or parents who serve as Eucharistic ministers. But my friend Kristin just told me story after horrible story about serious, committed Catholic friends of hers whose husbands have left them or whose wives have betrayed them. What could possibly have happened to tear these families apart?
1. Porn Addiction: No doubt about it, watching pornography breaches the promise that spouses make to remain faithful, forsaking all others. Remember that Jesus cautioned us even against committing adultery in our hearts. Virtual unfaithfulness can easily lead the way to an actual rupture of the marital bond. The website www.maritalhealing.com contains resources for those suffering from this addiction.
2. Adultery: Adultery can act as the ultimate escape hatch for someone unwilling to confront and solve the problems in their marriage. Doing something "unforgiveable" may be easier than just saying "I don't want to try any more." But the new relationship could have as many problems as the old one.
3. Reversal of Priorities: We are called to place God as our top priority, and then family, and then work. When the priorities get reversed, families can suffer. We can drift so far apart from God or our spouses that it seems impossible to return. But God always welcomes the prodigal son.
Please add to the list and help us explain how things can go so wrong.