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Showing posts with label News and Notes. Show all posts

Thursday, December 22, 2016

A Vocation of Change


Our Spanish relatives, seeped in Old World Catholicism, are a fount of wise sayings like the following: "God doesn't call us to a vocation of sameness. He calls us to a vocation of change." In other words, God doesn't make his will known in a set of simple instructions and then vanish off the scene. God accompanies us, inviting us to constant conversation and relationship.

"Look at the chosen people of Israel in the Old Testament," our Spanish cousin explained. "God called them from place to place." And indeed, the Old Testament tells a tale of a people on the move. The Book of Exodus describes generations of enslavement in Egypt, and 40 years of wandering in the desert, before reaching the promised land. Hundreds of years later, during the Babylonian Exile, the Jewish people were forced out of Judah and into Babylonia for practically 50 years before being able to return home.

Our cousin saw parallels between the history of God's chosen people and her own life. Like Leonie, St. Therese of Lisieux's sister, she was attracted to more than one religious order but had yet to find her place. She recognized God's will in the interior urge to keep searching and the courage to embrace change.

At this time in my life, I too can hear God calling me to change. This past year has brought both exhilarating highs and devastating lows. In April, Ave Maria Press published The Four Keys to Everlasting Love, which my husband and I wrote together. Then in August, the same publisher released The Catholic Mom's Prayer Companion, featuring daily devotional essays by me and many other writers. Along with a dizzying round of radio and in-person promotional appearances, the year also brought unwelcome reminders that my husband's health is not all it could be.

And so, this past year has shown me that God isn't finished with me yet. What he wants from me is more. To make room for more, I have to pare down and trim away. What this means, for the time being, is the end of this blog. I've enjoyed the journey and hope you have, too.

This blog started on a wing and a prayer in December 2011. I soon joined the teams of excellent bloggers at CatholicMom.com and CatholicLane.com. With the help of veteran news editor John Burger, who supervised me at the National Catholic Register way back when, I got tagged to report on events with Cardinal Dolan at the famous Waldorf Astoria Hotel and on Pope Francis' 2015 visit to both New York City and Philadelphia for online news outlet Aleteia.org.

I owe thanks to many people who assisted me along the way. Lisa Mladinich of AmazingCatechists.com introduced me to the editor of the Catholic Match blog and Catholic Digest magazine, both of which ran my articles. Rick Hinshaw, former editor-in-chief of The Long Island Catholic Magazine, recommended my husband and me as marriage advice columnists for the FAITH Magazine consortium. Mary Kaufmann produced my first webinar for Word of the Vine/Incarnate Institute. Acquisitions editor Lil Copan went prospecting on LinkedIn and asked me to submit my book proposal to Ave Maria Press. Heidi Hess Saxton ushered us through the harrowing days of writing and rewriting the book manuscript, perfecting it for publication. Editor Joan McKamey also sought me out via LinkedIn, resulting in two contracts to write entire issues of Catholic Update. Last but not least, Pam Swartzberg, Chair of the Women's Commission of the Archdiocese of Newark, deserves thanks for introducing us to Jill Cherrey, coordinator of the Archdiocesan God's Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage program, where we regularly speak.

There are scads of others, too numerous to mention, who helped with the success of this blog. I have thanked you elsewhere over the years, and if I don't thank you here, please know that your name is still in my heart!

I will still be available for paid writing and speaking assignments. Please reach out to me by email at santoskaree at gmail dot com.

Thursday, September 8, 2016

Faith on Facebook: 4 Keys to Everlasting Love Online Book Club

Many thanks to Michele Faehnle, co-author of  Divine Mercy for Moms, for helping to run the online book club for The Four Keys to Everlasting Love on Facebook  from Sept. 10 to Dec. 3. We now have 170 members and counting! Read Michele's post below for details on how and why to join. 




This past summer, more than 130 Catholic moms enjoyed spiritual fellowship on Facebook in the online book club for Divine Mercy for Moms. The group was such a terrific success that we decided to extend the fun. So I’m teaming with up with co-admins Amanda Torres and Aida Alaniz to delve into The Four Keys to Everlasting Love: How Your Catholic Marriage Can Bring You Joy for a Lifetime by CatholicMom marriage advice columnists Dr. Manny & Karee Santos. The discussions will begin on September 10 and end on December 3. We would love for you to jump on this opportunity to make your marriage and your faith stronger than ever!

The Four Keys to Everlasting Love is practical, easy to read, and full of personal stories to help you develop a stronger relationship with your spouse. As it says in the book’s description on Amazon: “No marriage -- even a sacramental one -- is free from conflicts about sex, money, child-rearing, in-laws, and work/life balance. Marriage columnist Karee Santos and her husband, Manuel, a psychiatrist who has been counseling couples for more than fifteen years, explore how applying the wisdom of the Catholic faith to marriage can free us to experience deep, lasting, and soul-satisfying love."

Daily Memes


Author Karee Santos will be posting daily memes based on The Four Keys, including super-helpful action steps for your marriage, and moving quotes from the book as well as from Scripture, the Catechism, and Pope John Paul II. Here's one of my favorites!



Share your reactions on the daily Facebook thread, and be inspired to deeper love for your family and a more constant prayer life!


Weekly Discussions


We’ll aim at reading one chapter per week. Every Saturday, the group administrators will moderate discussions based on the chapter of the week. On our start date of September 10 we’ll begin by chatting about the introduction.

The Saturday discussions will be based on the "Conversation Starters" (discussion questions) at the end of each chapter.  We co-admins will prime the conversational pump, telling you our answers and encouraging you to chime in with your own responses. You'll also be able to download free printable worksheets if you'd like to jot your answers down and share them with your hubby or with an in-person book club or prayer group.

The Facebook group is “closed,” which means that members of the group are the only ones who can see the comments you write. So no worries about too-personal musings showing up in the newsfeeds of friends and relatives!

How to Join the Fun


The Facebook group is called (simply enough) 4 Keys Online Book Club. Just click here and submit a request to join the group. Or, you can send me a Facebook friend request here, then message me and I’ll add you. Last but not least, you can email me at michele at faehnle dot com if you have questions or need help. Looking forward to great conversations and closer friendships with you this fall!

by Michele Faehnle

Image courtesy of Ave Maria Press.

Thursday, September 1, 2016

I Know What You Did Last Summer! (Photo Gallery)

After a summer vacation that went all too fast, I'm back to blogging again, but at a slower pace. Look for posts once a week on Thursdays, and if you really, really miss me let's catch up in person or via phone line or Interwebs.

Herewith, lots of cute kiddie pictures plus some videos of Maria's piano recital and Miguel's black belt test for Taekwondo. Now you know what we did last summer!
















Thursday, April 7, 2016

Launch into Everlasting Love TODAY!! (Book Excerpt Inside)


At long last, launch day is here!!! After more than ten years of research and writing (and re-writing), my husband Manuel P. Santos M.D. and I are finally celebrating the release of our Catholic marriage advice book, The Four Keys to Everlasting Love, by Ave Maria Press TODAY!! As a special thank-you to all our faithful followers, we're giving you a sneak peek at the introduction to our book. We hope and pray it lives up to your expectations!

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INTRODUCTION

“And they lived happily ever after.” Wouldn’t you like that to be the story of your marriage, the story of your life? God wants to give that life to you. His love for you is unmatched in power, intensity, depth, and tenderness. If you want to learn how to love and be loved forever, there is no greater teacher than the love of Jesus Christ.

God’s love for you is faithful. He has said, “I will not leave you” (Jn 14:18). He has sworn never to forsake you (Dt 31:6). He will stay with you always, even to the end of the world (Mt 28:20).

God’s love for you is free. He has invited you, even you with nothing to give him, to feast at the banquet of his love, to eat and drink your fill “without money and without price” (Is 55:1).

God’s love for you is fruitful. You will reap a harvest of eternal life if you do not give up or grow weary in doing what is right (Gal 6:9). God’s love will lead you to all that is right and true (Eph 5:9), and it will show itself in the good works that you do (Col 1:10).

God’s love for you is total. He will refresh you when you are tired and weary (Jer 31:25), he will heal your heart when it is broken (Is 61:1), he will take away your sickness (Dt 7:15), and he will wipe away every tear from your eyes (Rv 21:3–4). He would joyfully and willingly die for you. In fact, he has already died for you.

God wants us to receive his faithful, free, fruitful, and total love, and then share it with one another. Jesus didn’t say only to love your neighbor as yourself. He said “love one another as I have loved you” (Jn 15:12). Like Jesus, we can love with firm commitment and intense loyalty. We can love despite the misunderstandings, the pettiness, the hurts, and the betrayals. What do we call this love that knows no bounds? It is spousal love, as Pope St. John Paul II explained it. It is the love of Christ the Bridegroom for his people—his Bride, the Church.

The bad news is that you cannot achieve this perfection of spousal love on your own. The good news is you don’t have to. Jesus freely offers showers of graces to couples united in the Sacrament of Matrimony. He wants your marriage to be a sign—a sacrament—of his divine spousal love for the world.


Reprinted from the Introduction of The Four Keys to Everlasting Love (by Karee & Manuel Santos, M.D.) with permission from Ave Maria Press.



The Four Keys to Everlasting Love
How Your Catholic Marriage Can
Bring You Joy for a Lifetime
By Karee Santos
and Manuel P. Santos, M.D.
ISBN: 978-1-59471-603-4
256 pages • $15.95
Catholicism/
Marriage and Relationships
Also available as an eBook

Monday, April 4, 2016

What the Experts Say About Everlasting Love




When we were researching and writing our book about Catholic marriage, Manny and I were intensely aware of one thing. Although Manny is a psychiatrist, I'm an attorney, we've designed and taught pre-Cana classes, and we're raising six kids, we don't have a theology degree between us. To say we double-checked everything twice is an understatement. So we were overwhelmingly happy when the Dean of Students at the highly respected St. Joseph's Seminary (colloquially known as "Dunwoodie") approved our book for the imprimatur without a single change. That book meant our book was free from any doctrinal error -- an A+ job.

In the words of Bishop William Murphy of the Diocese of Rockville Centre to our publisher: "I am happy to write to you now to say that the theologian who has reviewed [the book] has a high regard for it and highly recommends it with no suggestions of any changes." We were so excited by the news that we asked that theologian to endorse our book, and he agreed!

His endorsement joins those by Christopher West (possibly the most well-known Catholic writer on marriage today) and authors Lisa Mladinich, Sarah Reinhard, Stephanie Calis, and Fr. John Waiss. Read on to see what they say!

"Very appealing."

"A good resource for couples. The authors' married witness and clear attention to Catholic teachings make it very appealing."
--Rev. Nicholas Zientarski, Dean of Students, St. Joseph's Seminary at Dunwoodie, Yonkers, New York

"Practical yet spiritually rich."

"In The Four Keys to Everlasting Love, you will meet two remarkable people who have experienced authentic love, having embraced joy and sorrow alike. Practical yet spiritually rich, this book is the fruit of his private practice as a counselor to couples in crisis and of their ministry together in marriage preparation. While reading it you will discover, as the Santoses have discovered, that just as Jesus turned water into wine at the wedding feast of Cana, so too does he 'restore the wine' in the lives of every couple who invite him to their marriage."
--From the foreword by Christopher West, Author of Good News about Sex and Marriage

"Not to be missed!"

"Whether engaged or long-married, Catholic couples will fall in love again as they implement these simple but powerful strategies for creating a lifetime of mutual joy. The Four Keys to Everlasting Love unpacks the secrets of genuine togetherness through personal witness, case studies, the writings of the Church, and superb practical recommendations. Not to be missed!"
 --Lisa Mladinich, Author of the Be An Amazing Catechist series

"An instant, classic, go-to resource."

"What Dr. Manny and Karee Santos have done with The Four Keys to Everlasting Love is to create a resource that we all need. Yes, all of us. Whether you're single and contemplating marriage, newlywed or an old hand at vows, priest or catechist, this book has something for you. What you're holding in your hands is a book that's going to become an instant, classic, go-to resource for parishes, spiritual leaders, and anyone who cares about the future of Catholic marriage."
 --Sarah Reinhard, Catholic author, speaker, and blogger

"An invitation to heroic virtue."

"In my experience as a Catholic relationship book junkie, this is my first encounter with a book that spans every season of marriage, from engagement to young family life and beyond. Karee and Manny Santos offer something rare: practical, livable, and holy ways for couples to live out their wedding vows in a complete gift of self--in everything from work to money to holidays and hospitality. Looking to scripture, the saints, and St. John Paul II's theology of the body, their wisdom, borne of many years together in sickness and in health, does more than just present a roadmap for the shared life between a husband and wife and their family. The Four Keys to Everlasting Love calls spouses to a true engagement (ahem!) and communion with the Church and the world, one that authentically fosters a 'civilization of love.' This book truly is an invitation to heroic virtue, fully alive in pursuit of God's glory, with your spouse by your side."
--Stephanie Calis, Catholic blogger and author of Invited: The Ultimate Catholic Wedding Planner 

"Spot on!"

"Fearlessly sharing their own marital and family struggles, Karee and Manny Santos show how every family can reach the alluring ideal to which God calls them, drawing others to heaven in the process. Their many easy and practical suggestions are spot on!"
--Rev. John R. Waiss, Pastor and author of Couples in Love


The Four Keys to Everlasting Love
How Your Catholic Marriage Can
Bring You Joy for a Lifetime
By Karee Santos
and Manuel P. Santos, M.D.
ISBN: 978-1-59471-603-4
256 pages • $15.95
Catholicism/
Marriage and Relationships
Also available as an eBook

Monday, March 28, 2016

12 Main Topics Married Couples Need to Know


Catholic couples today desperately need a transfusion of spiritual truths combined with solid practical advice. The Vatican identified the most crucial topics that couples need to know in its document Preparation for the Sacrament of Marriage -- and our marriage advice book, The Four Keys to Everlasting Love, covers every single one. Each of the book's twelve chapters focuses on a different essential area of concern including:
  • personality differences,
  • sacramentality,
  • dealing with in-laws,
  • work/life balance,
  • finances,
  • community service,
  • sexuality,
  • fertility,
  • special family circumstances,
  • parenting,
  • prayer, and
  • imitating the Holy Family.

As far as we know, there is no other book or program
that addresses all these essential areas.
Take a deeper look at how we did it in this 
Pre-release Table of Contents Reveal:
 

Part I    CALLED TO BE FAITHFUL AND FORGIVING

Chapter 1    Turning Two into One: How to Overcome the Differences That Divide You

Chapter 2    Turning Good Marriages into Pathways to Glory: It’s a Sacrament; It’s a Vocation; It’s a Road Map to Heaven!

Chapter 3    Turning Union into Communion: Extending Your Love to Your In-Laws and Beyond

Part II    CALLED TO BE FREE

Chapter 4    Turning Meaningless Drudgery into Meaningful Work: How to Prioritize God, Family, and Work

Chapter 5    Turning Ownership into Stewardship: Six Tips for Trouble-Free, God-Centered Finances

Chapter 6    Turning Inaction into Action: Families at the Service of Other Families

Part III    CALLED TO BE FRUITFUL

Chapter 7    Turning Spouses into Life-Giving Lovers: The Creative Power of Sex

Chapter 8    Turning the Fear of Fertility into a Total Gift of Self: Finding a Better Alternative to Artificial Birth Control and IVF

Chapter 9    Turning Challenges into Channels of Grace: Big Families, Special-Needs Kids, Adopting, Fostering, and Stepparenting

Part IV    CALLED TO LOVE TOTALLY AND FOREVER

Chapter 10    Turning Children into Adults: Forming Your Children’s Bodies, Minds, and Souls in Christ

Chapter 11    Turning Our Homes into Places of Prayer: The Eternal Consequences of Everyday Family Life

Chapter 12    Turning into a Happier, Holier Family: Jesus, Mary, and Joseph Can Show You How

 EXCITING BOOK NEWS!!

The books have reached the warehouse, and we have already held the first copies of The Four Keys to Everlasting Love in our hands! Pre-orders and review copies are being shipped out as we speak. Colleagues have told us that they feel "blown away by the gift this will be for couples." We hope you'll feel the same.

To get the book from Amazon, click here. To get the book from Barnes & Noble, click here. And to get a bulk discount on 5 or more copies from the Ave Maria Press website, click here and type in the promo code 4KEYS when ordering.

Thursday, March 17, 2016

Praise for our Marriage Video + Webinar Announcement


A big thanks goes out to Melanie Jean Juneau, the Editor-in-Chief of Catholic Stand, for her wonderful review of our video presentation on "Mercy in Marriage." Melanie writes at CatholicMom:

Karee and her husband,  Dr. Manuel P. Santos M.D., a Catholic psychiatrist, have put together a perfectly balanced talk for the Catholic Conference 4 Moms; it is warm, down-to-earth, yet informative and educational at the same time. In fact, their presentation itself is a practical demonstration of the mutual respect, tolerance, forgiveness, and mercy which is the foundation of a Catholic, sacramental marriage.

To read more, click here.

We'd also like to announce our webinar The Wedding Banquet: Inviting Couples to Experience Divine Love to be held on Tuesday, April 5, from 3:00-:00 p.m. EDT. Although open to everyone, the webinar is intended for people involved in marriage ministry.


Monday, February 29, 2016

Marriage Matters Problem-Solving Round-up: Income Loss, Depression, Addiction, Overspending & Empty Nests


My husband Dr. Manny Santos and I were extremely grateful when the Editor-in-Chief of our diocesan magazine recommended us as regular columnists for the FAITH Magazine nation-wide consortium. Their Marriage Matters monthly column presents a difficult marital problem in a "he says-she says" format. Our job is to present helpful, faith-based advice in a few hundred words. Quite a challenge, but one we always enjoy tackling.

Here's a round-up of links to our columns over the past several months. And stay tuned for our April 2016 column on faith-sharing groups for couples and our May 2016 column on spouses who are struggling with using Natural Family Planning.

1. She says: "I really want to be a stay-at-home mom"

    He says: “It’s just not feasible right now”


WE RECOMMEND: Taking the hidden costs of working outside the home into account, and realizing that if she is truly called to be a SAHM they'll find it worth the financial sacrifice. (From the April 2015 issue)

2. She says: "He won’t take his depression meds"

    He says: "I don’t like the side effects"


WE RECOMMEND: Talking to his doctor about switching medications, and resolving to fight the depression together rather than fighting each other. (From the May 2015 issue)

3. He says: "I'm afraid she's becoming addicted"
    She says: "I’m in constant pain"


WE RECOMMEND: Learning the warning signs of addiction, and locating outside sources of help. (From the September 2015 issue)

4. He says: "She lost a lot of our money shopping online"
    She says: "I want to repair our relationship"


WE RECOMMEND: Committing to forgiveness of past behavior and total honesty about current and future shopping habits. (From the November 2015 issue)


5. He says: "The kids moved out, and now she's never home"
    She says: "I just want to stay active in the community"


WE RECOMMEND: Shifting the focus to the marriage and deciding on a new direction to take together in this new stage of their lives. (From the Jan./Feb. 2016 issue)




Interested in our upcoming Catholic marriage advice book? Sign up here for The Four Keys to Everlasting Love newsletter and get your downloadable thank-you gift.


Monday, January 4, 2016

Firsts and Bests for 2015!!


Proving that 45 may indeed be the new 35, the past year saw me doing a lot of things for the first time in my life. That's true of my husband as well. Bringing equal amounts of fun and fear, here are our firsts for 2015:

  • first time being vetted by the Secret Service for a press pass to a papal Mass
  • first vocal solo in a Cathedral
  • first asked to endorse a book
  • first asked to endorse a film
  • first child to enter high school
  • first child to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation
  • first time teaching pre-Cana for the Joy-Filled Marriage program of the Archdiocese of Newark
  • first attendance at the Catholic Marketing Network trade show
  • first filmed talk
  • first post to reach over 8,000 shares in five languages (English, French, Italian, Spanish, & Vietnamese)

And here are the best Can We Cana? posts for 2015, according to you, dear readers!

Top 10 Most Popular Posts


1. Exciting New Resource for Brides-to-Be from Pauline Books!

2. Top 7 Online Resources for Divorced Catholics

3. Parochial School Girl Meets Public School World (awarded Best in Catholic Blogging)

4. HUGE NEWS: Chris West Will Write the Foreword to Our Marriage Advice Book!

5. Best Catholic Books I Read in 2014

6. 13 Resources on Sacramental Marriage for Everyone from Newbies to Catechists

7. What Pope Francis Meant by Divorced & Remarried Aren't Excommunicated (awarded Best in Catholic Blogging)

8. Your Marriage is a Pearl of Great Price

9. Top Tips for a Joy-Filled Marriage

10. Our Visit to the Only Carthusian Monastery in the U.S.


Top 3 Most Popular Guest Posts


1. How Learning NFP Led this Couple to Convert to Catholicism: Why NFP? by Alicia & Thomas Sanjurjo

2. How to Stay Married 10 Years & Then Some, Third Time Around: Divorce & Remarriage Edition by Marie Therese Kceif

3. Why NFP is Great for Men, Too by Daniel Stewart aka Daniel Bearman of Acts of Idiot Praise


Post with Most Likes & Shares on Social Media


Best Blogposts and Mileposts of 2014!!


Post with the Most Comments


Best & Worst of Bishops Behaving Badly, or Week 2 of the Family Synod


Many blessings on all of you for helping this Catholic marriage support community grow. If there are any topics you'd like to hear more about, please let me know in the comments!


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Monday, December 28, 2015

Merry Christmas from Our Family to Yours!


Our family has been through a lot of changes in the past year! Manny switched jobs from Maimonides Hospital in Brooklyn to Mercy Hospital, part of Catholic Health Services of Long Island.

Lelia started high school this year in the Garden City public school system. She is on the honor roll and in the art honors program. She has lots of friends and has grown to be even taller than her mother.

At almost thirteen years old, Miguel is a few tests away from getting his black belt in taekwondo. Maria is not far behind him. Maria also took the School and College Ability Test for fourth and fifth graders, and her scores qualified her to take online courses with Johns Hopkins Center for Talented Youth.

Marguerite and Cecilia are both competitive gymnasts. Marga is USAG Level 3, and C.C. is Level 2. In their first meet this year, Marga won medals for floor, vault, and uneven bars, and C.C. won a medal for bars also.

Our sweet Elisa-Maria (Emma) is the littlest one at only five years old. She just started kindergarten at St. Joseph’s School, and she’s very excited about learning how to read. We hope that 2015 was good to you and that 2016 will bring you many blessings!


With love from Manny, Karee, Lelia, Miguel, Maria,

Marguerite, Cecilia, and Elisa-Maria Santos

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PLUS, BONUS VIDEO of Lelia singing O Holy Night in a stairwell.
Because ... stairwells.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

This Lent, Join Thousands in Learning About Mercy in Marriage



My husband Manny and I are excited to join several stellar speakers for a February 2016 online event called Faces of Mercy, produced by CatholicConference4Moms. Over 4,000 Catholic women registered for last year's event. Manny and I will be speaking on Mercy in Marriage and the power of forgiveness to make your marriage strong, long-lasting, and joyful. Other presentations cover a wide range of topics such as teaching children how to forgive, overcoming evil through showing mercy, lessons on Divine Mercy from St. Faustina, and the role of mercy in combating pornography addiction.

This year's amazing line-up of presenters includes:

  • Jennifer Fulwiler, Sirius XM radio show host & author of the best-selling conversion memoir Something Other Than God;
  • Simcha Fisher, speaker at the World Meeting of Families and author of The Sinner's Guide to Natural Family Planning;
  • Kimberly Hahn, Bible-study author and wife of theology professor Scott Hahn;
  • Mike Aquilina, author or editor of more than 40 books and host of several television series on EWTN; and

Conference organizer Tami Kiser has brought to life an extraordinary way of entering into the meaning of Christ's mercy during this Year of Mercy, starting on December 8, 2015, that Pope Francis has declared for the Church. Pre-recorded talks from the Faces of Mercy conference will be available to registrants on demand all throughout Lent. Plus, on February 20, 2016, Jennifer Fulwiler will be hosting live in the morning, and moms can gather virtually in the afternoon for live stream praying of the Divine Mercy chaplet.

A special option available this year is for parishes to host the talks as a Lenten retreat. This is a great way to rejuvenate faith and trust in God during the cold winter months before we celebrate Christ's resurrection! The CatholicConference4Moms website has all the information for parish participation here

Please consider registering either as an individual or on behalf of your parish, if you're a catechist or religious education director. May Christ shower his mercy and blessings upon you!

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Announcing the Free Marriage Rx E-Book!!

50 Inspirational Quotes to Make Your Marriage
Better Today
We're so pleased to share a free eBook with subscribers to our newsletter.  In our newsletter, you'll find encouraging articles, helpful tips, and updates on our book The Four Keys to Everlasting Love: How Your Catholic Marriage Will Bring You Joy for a Lifetime (available for pre-order here!).

Our free Marriage Rx eBook is meant to touch your heart and show you how God's everlasting love can improve your married life today and every day. We've included quotes from diverse sources like Shakespeare and the Bible, plus excerpts from many Can We Cana? posts, especially the popular series How to Stay Married 10 Years & Then Some. You can click through to the full posts, if you wish -- we've provided the links right inside the eBook.

Inside you'll find useful and uplifting guidance on:

  • The ABCs of Communication
  • Work & Money
  • Friends, Family & Forgiveness
  • God & Prayer
  • Saints, Suffering & Sacrifice


Ready to be inspired?

Subscribe to our newsletter




May God bless you and your marriages!

Yours in Christ,
Dr. Manny and Karee Santos

Marriage Rx logo created by the awesome author, blogger & design guru Sarah Reinhard, to whom we owe a whopping debt of gratitude.

Thursday, October 15, 2015

BIG REVEAL: We Have a Book Cover!!

The thrill-ride of book publishing continues as we hit our next milestone: the cover of our new book, The Four Keys to Everlasting Love: How Your Catholic Marriage Can Bring You Joy for a Lifetime!!! This Catholic marriage help book is already available for pre-order at Amazon.com (what a dream come true).

Our editor called publisher Ave Maria Press' art department their "secret weapon" because of how great they are at developing attractive cover art, so we were overjoyed to work with them. Like everything else in publishing, coming up with a great cover is a long process. First, they asked us for ideas. We were super-excited about the key motif, so dear hubby Manny sketched this.

DRAFT A



Our publisher ran the idea past some focus groups and decided that the cover also needed to showcase the idea of marriage as a shared journey. So they combined both ideas in this stunning version.

DRAFT B






But, because I'm a lawyer, I have to tinker with everything. My sister-in-law Nancy described quite well the difference between working for most people -- who say "great!!!" -- and lawyers, who say "great! Now change this, fix that, improve the other thing...." I asked the art department to  make the grass a little greener, because doesn't everyone want that? And I asked them to make our foreword writer Christopher West's name a little bigger, because we are Very, Very Excited that he is supporting our Catholic marriage advice book. (His Facebook page just exceeded 50,000 likes, which is pretty major. Plus, he's awesome.) So, the art department, gave us this, our final cover!!!


FINAL COVER (HURRAY!!!!)







Don't you just love it? Please, please, tell all your friends and help spread the word.


In other news, our awesome book editor Heidi Hess Saxton left to become the Editorial Director at Servant Books/Franciscan Media. Our book project is now being shepherded by Ave Maria Press' current Editorial Director Bob Hamma. We are honored to have worked with two people of such high caliber. And after Heidi left Ave Maria Press, CatholicMom founder Lisa Hendey joined them as editor-at-large. What a small world!

Monday, September 7, 2015

Happy Labor Day in Pictures!!

Lelia and Maria at the pool


Elisa-Maria with her Barbies

C.C. and Marga on the monkey bars


Miguel and cousins at the ball game



Monday, August 17, 2015

Our Visit to the Only Carthusian Monastery in the U.S.


This past weekend, we spent the Feast of the Assumption at the Charterhouse of the Transfiguration, the only Carthusian monastery in the United States. High on a Vermont mountaintop, the monastery is surrounded by the solitude so essential to the monks' way of life.

The self-sufficient private complex was donated by a wealthy inventor who began his career in World War I and II by developing mustard gas and fissionable uranium for the atomic bomb. When he died without biological heirs, he left the land and buildings to the Carthusian order as if in expiation, hoping to salve his conscience.

The monks now living on the mountain grow their own food and bake their own bread, limiting themselves to a strict vegetarian diet. They also generate their own electricity through small water-driven power plants. Living under a rule of silence, they have a bare minimum of contact with the outside world. The most garrulous of the men has the job of interfacing with outsiders. The monks have a phone number and an email address, but deliberately shun full Internet access because of its potential for distraction. Their website is maintained by the same lay couple who runs the gift shop at the mountain's base.


Visitors can pay to hike the grounds at a rate of $15 per car and driver, and $5 more per each additional passenger. Family members and special guests are allowed to vacation overnight at the complex only once a year. Our family stayed at the Windswept guest house, formerly the main residence of the inventor and his wife. Decorated in what was the height of style many decades ago, Windswept has been meticulously preserved by the monks. Walking through the door is like walking into a time capsule. Bedrooms are scattered across the giant space, enough for our family of eight and more.

Having the kids along was like going on a family retreat. The seven-hour drive from our home in Long Island to the Vermont monastery was marked by harpoon ("hairpin") turns and rubberduckers ("rubberneckers"), according to our son Miguel. When we finally arrived, we had to say a few Hail Marys to navigate successfully along the winding, unmarked gravel roads within the complex.




Our kids obtained a thorough education in the virtues as a result of the trip. During last year's visit, our daughter Maria cried when we wouldn't let her stay in a bedroom near the library because the room hadn't been prepared for us. We never mentioned anything to the monks, but this year the bedroom had been cleaned and decorated with a little lamp and pretty sheets on the bed. Maria learned that good things do sometimes come to those who wait. Miguel gained a little wisdom when we asked him to put our four-year-old Elisa-Maria to sleep. "I told her to go to bed, but she just ran away," he said. "Mom, your job is a lot harder than it looks."

The monks said a special Mass for us on Saturday, August 15, the Feast of the Assumption. Before Mass, Manny asked the kids what the Assumption meant. "When God took Mary's body into heaven!" they shouted, nearly in unison. "Why did he do that?" I asked. "Because God loved her and she was about to die," responded Marga. "And because she's AWE-some," answered little Elisa-Maria. Yeah, they nailed it.

The monks celebrate their own liturgy, called the Order of the Carthusian Mass. The priest does not give a homily, and the congregants don't exchange the Sign of the Peace. The priest faces the altar rather than the people. And instead of singing, there are periods of silent prayer. Inspired by the timeless ritual and intimate setting, our rising second-grader Cecilia begged to receive Holy Communion. "You have to wait for your First Communion next spring," we told her. "Wait patiently for Jesus. He's waiting patiently for you."



After Saturday's Mass, we went swimming and rowing on Lake Madeleine. Fields of yellow and purple wildflowers encircled the shoreline. The strong shoulders of the mountains protected us from anything that might mar the peacefulness of the day -- including cell phone signals.



In contrast to the dated sumptuousness of the guest house and the sprawling glory of the grounds, the monks' chapel and residence is simple and gray, made of concrete and cinder block. The men walk the halls of the monastery with their hoods up, obscuring their faces, to emphasize their similarity and oneness as brothers.

A sign in the hallway outside the tiny chapel proclaims: "In solitude one lives in all ages." As attractive as it may seem, the thousand-year-old Carthusian way of life isn't for everyone. Some people sign up for a three-month retreat at the monastery, only to give up and return home after a single day.

Silence and young children certainly aren't the best of friends. During Sunday's Mass, I felt like keeping the children quiet was as futile as hushing the constant noise of a roaring waterfall. Like a perpetual motion machine, they rustled and squeaked and asked questions in piercing stage whispers. Only for a brief second did the silence peek through the clouds of endless sound, and we heard the cry of a hawk, far away, like a soul calling out wordlessly to God. It was an image that stayed with me on the long drive home and that I hope will stay with me for months and years to come.


Thursday, June 4, 2015

Summer Vacation on the Blog!!!



Summer vacation is fast approaching, and things are heating up on the home front. So I won't be posting on the Can We Cana? blog for the next few months, but there will be some great developments elsewhere. Our packed schedule of summer activities includes:

  • time on the Jersey Shore
  • editing our marriage advice book and polishing it until it shines like the top of the Chrysler building
  • being filmed for next year's Catholic Conference 4 Moms
  • presenting at a diocesan session of God's Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage, the marriage prep program developed by Chris West
  • attending the Catholic Marketing Network trade show
  • continuing to write our Marriage Rx advice column for CatholicMom
  • visiting a Carthusian monastery in Vermont
  • awaiting the publication of my article on saintly marriages, which will appear in the Catholic Digest special issue on the World Meeting of Families #popeinphilly

So have a great summer, and see you again in the fall!!

Monday, April 27, 2015

What the Heck is Happening with Our Book?


A reader asked recently, "What's going on with your book? I haven't seen anything about it on your blog!" The short answer is that I've been too busy writing the book to write ABOUT the book. But here's a short and sweet update for the inquiring minds that want to know.

My husband Dr. Manuel Santos and I signed a contract in August 2014 with Ave Maria Press to publish our Catholic marriage advice book. Since then, we've been writing our sweet patooties off. In March of this year, we were excited to learn that the most awesome and excellent Heidi Hess Saxton was assigned as our editor.

I've been stalking Heidi through social media for years, since she's good friends with some of my favorite Catholic Moms, Lisa Hendey and Sarah Reinhard. Heidi also compiled the best children's Catholic Bible ever, in my opinion, and I've gifted it to several family members.

We gave our initial draft to Heidi in April and, with her help, we'll start some serious editing in June. If all goes well (knock on wood), then we'll pick a title and a cover. Then ... BOOK LAUNCH in 2016!! It may sound like a long time away, but for us it feels right around the corner.

Thanks for your interest, and stay tuned for more news.

Thursday, April 2, 2015

Have a Blessed Holy Week & Happy Easter!

Have a Blessed Holy Week ...






and a Happy Easter ... 







From our Family to Yours!!